Living with Depression
Depression changes the way you think about yourself and the world around you. You can’t stop thinking about the negative things in your life and tend to ignore the positive ones. What you may not know is that the way you think about yourself may be the reason you are living with depression.
Negative thoughts centered around things like disapproval from others, a lost job, or a relationship gone bad may be thoughts you’ve taken personally and internalized. As they built up, at some point your mind just couldn’t handle any more, and depression reared its ugly head.
Depression is REAL
Depression is real. It isn’t something you can shake off in a day. It took a while to develop and it’s not going to disappear overnight. Depression can consume people of any age and gender. It results from focusing on the negative and sad moments in life. Everyday activities seem overwhelming to accomplish. You feel as if you are going through life with the weight of the world on your shoulders and you just don’t have the energy to do anything about it. But you do.
Although it might sound strange, everyone develops low self-esteem as a child. You then find that pleasing people can bolster your self-esteem, so you travel along that path until you hit a fork in the road. It is impossible to please everyone you encounter, and eventually you start to get negative feedback from the people and the world around you. How you choose to deal with that negative feedback can make the difference between becoming depressed and having peace of mind.
Good Days and Bad Days
When you’re going through depression, you might have a couple of good days, but then they are followed by a spate of bad days, and you don’t know how long it will last. Blending in with others in the everyday world can be overwhelming. People with depression appear “normal” to others, but can barely function when on their own.
Learning how to let go of the negative thoughts that are causing your depression are the key to alleviating your illness. Replacing them with positive thoughts about your life can help you turn your life around. Slowly, you will realize that you are a worthwhile person in the world, deserving the same as everyone else. Once you are able to truly believe that is when your depression will begin to lessen.
Catch Hold of those Rose-Colored Glasses
Switching from negative to positive thoughts has to be practiced often. Simply accepting a kind word, or appreciating a sunny day or a beautiful sunset can give you a break from the pain. It is not easy once the hooks of depression have gotten hold of you. The depressed brain tends to see life through dark-colored glasses; rose-colored glasses are quite out of reach.
But maybe, with some effort, perhaps some serious effort, if you slowly let go of the negative thoughts you have been owning for so long, you’ll realize that you are a worthwhile person in your own right. Internalizing your thoughts about how others made you feel in the past is the path you have chosen not to take, and that is all you need. Slowly you will regain your sense of self-worth and boost your self-esteem. Once you believe that you are a person of integrity, the weight of the world will slide off your shoulders. Just keep at it.
And moving forward, remember that no matter how bad things seem, nothing stays the same forever. Change is the only constant in life.