Self-Love and Self-Responsibility
Self-love is about learning to love yourself for who you are by maintaining a healthy level of positive self-esteem. It allows you to have empathy for others. Self-responsibility means that you must rely only on yourself to achieve self-love by valuing yourself. Only when you possess the self-confidence to value yourself, without relying on others for validation, can you achieve self-love.
Having personal responsibility for your own self-love seems obvious, but many rely on the affirmation of others to feel good about themselves. Self-love requires effort and practice, and most of all, belief in yourself. And you alone are responsible for that well-being. You need to reach a healthy level of self-esteem to be ready to take charge of your own self and be able to have empathy for others.
Accept who you are and be confident about your decisions and behavior. Think for yourself by actively choosing to deflect negative influences in your life. Don’t blindly accept that negative information. Change it. Self-responsibility dictates that only you can do that.
You are probably more responsible in some areas of your lives and less responsible in others. Although total self-responsibility may be unachievable all the time, you can learn to operate more self-responsibly if you become aware of the negative issues affecting your life and take action to correct them.
In most cases, you will know what you need to do. It’s just a matter of identifying and acting on the situation. If you practice taking responsibility for yourself day by day, you will develop the type of skills that you need to achieve, and maintain, responsibility for the self you are.
As you enter adulthood, self-responsibility will help you achieve satisfaction in your life. It can help you improve your self-esteem by learning that you are not responsible for others actions, only your own. In other words, the negatives actions of others are not yours to own. As you develop your self-responsibility around concepts like these, it will be easier to incorporate self-love into your life.
Know Your Limits
Taking responsibility for yourself means you must also know your limitations. There are times that you are powerless to achieve the results you want. You need to determine which parts of a situation you have control over, act on that part and let go of the rest.
Another part of self-responsibility is establishing healthy boundaries with others. Taking on undeserved burdens from others is an act of irresponsibility toward oneself. In order to improve your self-esteem, you need to establish healthy boundaries with friends, parents and others.
Accepting others’ burdens only contributes to a lack of responsibility for your own well-being. Setting firm boundaries in relationships with others can help preserve self-responsibility and prevent co-dependency.
Self-concept is the mental image we have of ourselves and our strengths and weaknesses. It is important to develop and maintain a positive self-concept to achieve self-love. Self-concept and self-responsibility together make for a solid base upon which to build self-love. Self-concept, self-responsibility and self-love are all possible with, and depend on, having a good self-esteem. And having a positive self-esteem is up to you.