The Power of Pleasing We all want to be popular with others. No one likes to be put down, or to feel like they are not as good as everyone they are around. In order to avoid feeling that way, many people fall into a pattern of pleasing others over themselves, because of the power they feel that they gain …
Escaping Victimhood
Escaping Victimhood People don’t become victims. They open themselves to the opportunity. Believe it or not, becoming a victim often stems from a lack of taking responsibility for yourself. Maybe you blame others when something goes wrong in your life. Or you take the position that was something was done “to” you; it had nothing to do with your own …
Forgive Someone: Improve Your Outlook on Life
Forgive Someone: Improve Your Outlook on Life Forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. When you forgive someone who has wronged you, whether they know you have or not, you release yourself from the anger and bitterness that you may have been holding against that person for who knows how long. That person who wronged you …
Being Responsible for Your Reactions, Not for What Happens
Being Responsible for Your Reactions, Not for What Happens When you are in a group of people and something happens, what do you do? Do you react? Do you just stand and watch what is taking place? Do you ask someone else to do something about it? Often, the reaction of most people is to do nothing, assuming that someone …
Self-Reliance Isn’t Selfishness
Self-Reliance Isn’t Selfishness Self-reliance and selfishness are vastly different from one another. To be self-reliant is to take responsibility for one’s own existence, to learn how to do things without relying on others. Being selfish is just the opposite. A selfish person will take what they need from life, asserting that their needs trump those of others. Instead of even …
Self-Love and Self-Responsibility
Self-Love and Self-Responsibility Self-love is about learning to love yourself for who you are by maintaining a healthy level of positive self-esteem. It allows you to have empathy for others. Self-responsibility means that you must rely only on yourself to achieve self-love by valuing yourself. Only when you possess the self-confidence to value yourself, without relying on others for validation, …
Healthy Boundaries Based on Self-Love
Healthy Boundaries Based on Self-Love Self-love is a state in which people find themselves when they are able to do just that; they can love themselves. This is not always an easy task to achieve, and in fact many, many people struggle with learning to love themselves every day. Those who feel self-love are happy with who they are and …
Responsibility for the Self You Are
Responsibility for the Self You Are How you feel about yourself is your responsibility, not that of others. You are responsible for valuing yourself. If you are struggling with poor self-worth, you’ve most likely internalized negative feedback that you’ve received from others and let it eat away at your self-esteem. The only one who can change that mood is you. …
Why Helping Others Helps Your Depression
Why Helping Others Helps Your Depression Depression is brought on by a lack of self-esteem, a lack of self-worth and the absence of positive emotion in one’s life. Some try therapy to help themselves feel better. Others try medication. While both methods can be helpful, they cost money, which can exclude some from taking those routes. One method that is …
Road Rage, a narcissistic disorder
Today Vancouver was especially rainy and the roads were very wet; driving was difficult. Seeing a driver raging at another motorist in rush hour traffic put me in mind of what might underlie road rage. Why do people get so damn angry on the roads? Its not as though this is uncommon, and it can be dangerous. When we get …
