Enrich Your Life — Avoid Negative People
Negative people are everywhere and they can bring you down in so many ways. They are always complaining, criticizing, worrying out loud and more. They respond to anything you say with a negative comment. Even if you are a positive person, being around negative people all the time can challenge your self-esteem and drain you of energy; they can make you doubt yourself and even bring on anxiety and depression. You will always encounter negative people in your life, but there are things you can do to deflect their negativity, or avoid them altogether.
How to Identify Negative People
It’s not healthy to spend too much time with people who drain you emotionally. You should do what you can to keep them from settling into your life. Identifying who they are before they burrow in to bring you down is a skill to have. This way you can keep them at bay. Here are some personality traits of the kind of people you may want to avoid:
- They always worry.
- They try to tell what to do.
- They are pessimists.
- They complain all the time.
- They are often underachievers.
- They never get excited about the future.
- They can put a negative spin on anything.
Dealing with Negative People
When you are forced to be in an environment with negative people, there are several things you can do to mitigate their influence on your mood. For instance:
- Don’t argue with them — Negative people can be very stubborn and are unlikely to see things from your point of view, so an argument will often end up as an exercise in frustration. They will always find a half dozen ways to defend their viewpoint, no matter what you say. It’s a no-win situation.
- Deflect negative topics — If you sense that a conversation is beginning to take a downturn, change the topic, into something light, perhaps, to brighten the mood. Find something positive about the person you are with and compliment them about it. Everybody likes to talk about themselves, and this method of changing the topic might just put a positive spin on their conversation.
- Avoid one-on-one situations — If it’s just you with someone, then you become the sole target of their negativity. With one or two others in on a conversation, the downer comments aren’t solely shouldered by you. That way, you can concentrate on working some positive comments or compliments into the situation, and preserve yourself from being drained of energy.
- Stay positive — Don’t let someone drag you down to their negative level by letting their negative thoughts into your brain. Do things that keep your feelings about yourself positive when you are around negative people. The more you do this, the more it will become a natural reaction and you will then have built up a barrier to deflect any negativity sent your way.
Surround Yourself with Positive People
The most important thing you can do in your efforts to avoid negative people is to surround yourself with positive people. They can help maintain an upbeat outlook on life, even when the occasional “Debbie Downer” drifts into your circle of friends. And the more positive people you have in your life, the less room there is for negative personalities to squeeze in as well.