What Would Jesus Do to Help Someone Learn Self-Care and Self-Love?
Self-love is about loving yourself for who you are, and being comfortable with it, not wishing that you look or acted a different way. Self-care is about taking care of yourself, giving yourself time for you and not spending all your free time doing for others so that you begin feeling resentful of others, or being depressed that you have no time for yourself.
It is not always easy to achieve self-love and self-care. In fact, many people have trouble achieving these goals in their lives. It is a life-long project that you must constantly work on to keep your self-esteem up and prevent you from falling into depression and anxiety.
Love One Another
These are particularly pertinent subjects when it comes to looking to Jesus for help. His teachings in the bible, and those of his disciples, are infused with encouragements to practice self-care and self-love. For example, there is the well-known passage in Matthew 22:39, that reads, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Only with a positive self-love is this possible, so in effect the passage is stressing the importance of having a strong sense of self-love.
In John 13:34-35, we learn, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
Loving one another is a combination of both self-care and self-love because if you do not practice self-care you will not be able to achieve self-love. When you cannot achieve self-love, it becomes difficult to love others. Without self-love, you feel badly about yourself and cannot shed the negativity that is bringing you down; when you are depressed, it makes it hard to care for and love others.
How Jesus Can Help
A way that Jesus might help someone work towards achieving self-care and self-love is to make themselves aware of how they are treating themselves. When someone is exhausted all the time and depressed and anxious from working too much for too little personal payback, they may all of a sudden have an epiphany — a moment in time when everything in your life becomes clear.
When that happens, someone may begin to realize that they have become people-pleasers to a point where they no longer have time to please themselves, or that they have stopped taking the time they need to care for themselves.
An epiphany often motivates someone to start making immediate changes to better their own lives. In making these changes, they slowly begin to notice they are beginning to feel better inside, and that any depression or anxiety they have been experiencing is slowly starting to fade away. It is usually because they have taken the time and made the effort to improve self-love and self-care.
Being confident in knowing and loving who you are often makes others hold you in higher respect because you believe in yourself and the things that you do. Self-love and self-care are the ways to gain that confidence.