Self-Care Leads to Self-Worth
The dictionary defines self-worth as: “the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person.” Self-worth is a feeling that comes from within. You can’t get it by having a sporty car, a high-paying job, or a fancy house. It comes from feeling good about yourself, just as you are. If you aren’t feeling good about yourself and are looking for something to validate you as a good person, you need only to look inside you.
Self-care is an essential part of your life and affects how you feel about and see yourself, as well as how others see you. When you overextend yourself to accommodate others, you often end up without enough time to do the things you want, and need, to do for yourself. In turn, you start to feel badly about how your own life is going, and these negative feelings then affect your self-worth.
In order to reach a healthy level of self-care to get yourself to a healthy sense of self-worth, you need to set boundaries. Just because someone asks you to do them a favor doesn’t mean that you have to say yes. Learn to say no when you need to. Someone who knows you well enough to ask a favor most likely will not be angry with you for standing your ground. If they do get miffed, they will get over it. You should never take a response like this as if it were your fault. Learning to deflect negative emotions like that will contribute to the positive self-worth you want to develop or strengthen.
Take a Break from Stress
When it feels like the world is crumbling around you and the pressures of your life are becoming too much to handle, it’s time for some self-care. Put yourself first. Go get that massage that you’ve been wanting for weeks, or months. Start reading that book you bought ages ago, but is still unopened on your bedside table. Do something with the time you would have spent doing something for somebody else. When you do things like that, even sporadically, you are practicing self-care and showing yourself that you are worthy of taking time out of your day, just for yourself.
Be Alone with Yourself
Another way to use self-care to strengthen your self-worth is to spend some time with just yourself. Don’t worry about getting dinner on the table, or going to that business function with your spouse. Just carve a little time out of every day — or every few days — and spend it with yourself. Listen to some music. The kind that you like to listen to. Sit in an empty room in the dark and do nothing if you want. Practice not thinking about your troubles and just think about what you are going to do for yourself to relieve some stress and make more alone time for yourself.
Notice When Things Start to Change
If you keep at, eventually you will begin to see, or feel, some pleasant changes in yourself. You’ll feel more confident about the choices you make, and when they turn out to be the right choices, you’ll be proud of yourself for facing the challenge and succeeding, instead of cowering and worrying that things might not work out. The people around you will start to notice, too. The more time you spend on self-care, the more your self-worth will shine through.