Who Is This Person? Do I Like Who I Am?
When you were born, you didn’t know who you were. As you grew, you realized that you were somebody, but even then you didn’t know what that meant. As you became an adult and throughout your life, you went through many different experiences that made you who you are today. However, the question remains, “Who Is This Person?”
You may actually have been a very different person in the past and will become yet another person in the future. Even so, you need to consistently ask yourself who you are and seek an answer. You need to be always evaluating your behavior and stopping the parts of it that are distasteful to you. By discovering who you are, you are then able to take action to change the parts of your life that you don’t like and become a person who is happy with yourself. You need to be willing to show that person to the world.
Who Do I Want to Be?
Once you do analyze the parts of your personality that make up who you are, step back and take a look at what you’ve discovered. This is who you are. Do you like what you’ve found? If not, what are the parts of you that you don’t like? Do you know what to do about changing anything you’ve discovered?
Obviously, maintain the aspects of your personality that you enjoy. Keep doing what you are doing when it comes to the parts that make you happy to be who you are. Now get to work on the parts you would like to change — the parts that keep you from being happy about who you are.
Work On Reversing Negative Thoughts
Harboring negative emotions about yourself is often the root of personality traits that lead to unhappy thoughts about yourself. Such thoughts can make you depressed or anxious. There is a method, though, that can help you reverse those negative thoughts and feelings. That method may even help get you on the road to thinking more positively about who you are and assist you in eliminating the parts that trouble you.
Think of the times that you have sabotaged yourself by being in the middle of a negative situation and assigning yourself the blame for all of the negative consequences that arose. Other people were probably involved, but because they were unhappy with the outcome of the situation, you took that to mean that you were at fault for the results, whether they said so or not.
Negative Feelings Can Snowball in The Wrong Directions
The accumulation of those negative feelings then snowballs in any one of several directions, most of them leading to the diminishment of your self-esteem and your self-worth. When that happens, you may then sabotage your chances of going to places where you’d like to go or speaking to people you’d like to get to know better. This is all a result of feeling bad about yourself and worrying that you may create more negative emotions for yourself if everything doesn’t go smoothly.
By identifying the past emotions that made part of you become someone you didn’t like, you will be able to work on eliminating them from your life. With time and practice, you’ll see that you will begin liking who you are. By learning to deflect new negative emotions that come your way, you will continue to evolve into a happier you who has considerably less anxiety. You’ll have a more secure idea of just who you are and be happier about the person you are in the present moment.